Stressed, worried, scared, need friends

[missminimouse]

I don't usually delve too deep into my personal life with a group of total strangers,   but something is happening to my family that's got me terrified,  and nobody around me seems to be offering me much comfort.
We are being evicted from our home on April 20th,   we don't have a day longer than that.
My in-laws are buying a house that is a bit run down and needs lots of repairs,   but they are going to let us have it,  and rent will be much cheaper than the place we're currently in,  which was obviously unaffordable.  Problem is,   they won't close on this house till end of April,  beginning of May.   Which leaves us about a week to 2 weeks with no place to go.  I have 1 school age child,  and 2 that aren't in school yet and I'm pregnant. 
We don't have any friends we can stay with,  we've already thought about that.  We also thought about getting a hotel,  but that would be extremely expensive,  and also we'd have to eat out 3 times a day,   and we just can't afford that. 
My husband doesn't want to discuss the issue.   We still don't know the exact closing date on the house,  so he's waiting to hear that before he really starts freaking out.   
Moving is stressful enough,  but to not have anywhere to go for a couple weeks,  that just makes it worse.  I just need some words of encouragement or something,   I know in the longrun everything will be fine.  It's just hard to think about the longrun when there's a big gap like that.

[hades]

have you already been to court to get evicted?

[missminimouse]

They told us the court date is the 17th,  and then we have 72 hours to be out.   

[foxx]

Talk to an attorney, ASAP.  I don't know what the laws are like in your state, but here in PA you must have 60 days notice before eviction. 

If you can't afford an attorney...there should be a Neighborhood Legal Service which works on a sliding fee scale...

[hades]

not true.when youre in court youll go to a housing specialist first.when there try explaining you need like an extra month...if you have small kids you pretty much guarenteed up to an extra three months if you do need it.

[foxx]

not true.when youre in court youll go to a housing specialist first.when there try explaining you need like an extra month...if you have small kids you pretty much guarenteed up to an extra three months if you do need it.

Depends on the state Hades...there is no federal guideline.

[hades]

from what i read...the having children under a certain age gives you at least an automatic seventy five days or more.no matter what state it is.and most state do have a court appointed housins specialist.

[foxx]

from what i read...the having children under a certain age gives you at least an automatic seventy five days or more.no matter what state it is.and most state do have a court appointed housins specialist.

Okay...we can argue about this later Hades...

Missminniemouse...Please try to talk to an attorney if you haven't already. 

Here is a link from the HUD website...perhaps you can find out some more info there...Don't worry woman, it will be okay...

http://www.hud.gov/homeless/hmlsagen.cfm

[Libra]

Explain your situation to the judge.  If he/she doesn't give you the extra time you need, contact your local Red Cross.  They helped out a friend of mine in a similar situation. 

Good lucky, sweetie.  It'll all work out.  :-*

Libra

[hades]

just get some legal advice before time and youll see for yourself whats going on.  :-*

[ClingFree]

Its been said ... Legal Advice is my best advice ...

Past that .. it is going to work out. They always say its darkest before the dawn .. and theyre right. When youre 60 and sitting in a rocking chair with your hubby - You'll look back at this and think .. wow, we made it through that. It'll just be a speed bump in the road of life.

[bubblegum]

Explain your situation to the judge.  If he/she doesn't give you the extra time you need, contact your local Red Cross.  They helped out a friend of mine in a similar situation. 
Good lucky, sweetie.  It'll all work out.  :-*
Libra

yes go to the red cross and see if they can help.  Also contact your local salvation army to see if they can help.

[missminimouse]

Ok,  guess what,   I just looked in my phone book and there's only 1 property lawyer in my area,   and he's already been hired by my landlord.......gotta love it.  I think basically I'm just gonna ask the judge to give us a couple extra weeks here.   I just hate to put it off till then,   cuz if he says no then we only have 3 days to figure out what we're gonna do.  I just kinda feel like there's not a whole lot i can do right now,   just waiting on everything to fall into my lap and figure it out from there.  Unfortunatly once it falls into your lap,  you're not given much time to figure out what to do with it. 

[harley89]

Go ahead and contact Red Cross and Salvation Army and explain your situation. They may be able to be able to help you with a backup plan or provide you with legal assistance. Go for girl. Everything will work out have faith. Most judges are not going to put small children in the street.

[crankycook]

not sure where you live, or if you have them there, but try contacting your community action agency and see if they can help you. As everyone else said try to get a lawyer, leagel aid is free, or at least have a sliding scale. I know it don't seem like it now, but eventually everything will work out, and you will be stronger for it.

[nightperson]

sry to here the problem your have i dont know where you live are the sorce of your commuity but maybe you can talk to family you did say they got you a house but wouldnt be ready maybe they can let you live there if there is anything i can do let me know im really sry my hearts goes out to you and your littles ones

[Helen]

I'm sorry you're in this situation but like everyone else has already said, you do need legal advice.
I too can't see a judge not giving you an extention with 3 small children. Hope all goes well for you.

[Tara]

Whatever you do make sure you go to court...If you don't go to court you will have like 10 days to get out...By going to court you have a better chance of getting to stay there 30 -60 days.

[nightperson]

yes showing up does give you a better handle on everything i do hope they let you stay aleast 2 weeks till the other house is done
just explain it to the judge im praying for ya hun take care

[WindSong]

I am a landlord and I'm guessing you're more than 30 days in arrears with your rent.  It's heartbreaking to have to evict anyone, especially when there are children in the home..... Why don't you try talking with your landlord and explain your situation with them.  Most people I know would extend your stay for a couple of weeks without you taking the chance that a judge will do that.  BTW, the judge can't just extend your time.  He must follow the laws of your particular state and he can't take into consideration whether you have children or what hardships you are facing.  Another suggestion is talk with your local housing authority.  I know in a couple of instances they did pay the rent for some of my tenants when they were unable to pay it themselves.  Also, some of the churches have funds for this type situation.  Be sure u do go to court.  Failure to appear guarantees the plaintiff will win with whatever request they are making.   At least if you are present and your landlord has any facts incorrect, you can correct them with the judge.  Good luck to you and your family.  I hope things get brighter very soon.